- May 28, 1956 - December 12, 2012
- Needham, Massachusetts
of Pamela's Passing
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“...."For that dash represents all the time that she spent alive on earth and now only those who loved her know what that little line is worth...So...Read More »
1 of 16 | Posted by: Robert C Fitzpatrick - Westmore, VT
“I am truly saddened to learn of Pamela's passing. I have very fond memories of her back in Wellesley when we were in 6th and 7th grade and she was...Read More »
2 of 16 | Posted by: Andrew Hague - Miami, FL
“I was no more than a casual friend of Pam's. What always amazed me about Pam in High School was that she was accessible with an infectious, outgoing...Read More »
3 of 16 | Posted by: John Watson - Wellesley, MA
“Dear Chris, Trinity, Ashley and Chris,
I first met the Pooley family when we shared car pool duties to the Carroll School. It was a long drive to...Read More »
4 of 16 | Posted by: Nancy Wilde - friend
“Thank you, Chris, for such a beautiful picture of Pamela's life. We feel like we know her so much better. We will all miss her.
5 of 16 | Posted by: David and Lyn Hadden - Needham, MA
“Thanks for the memories Pam! You are truly Missed. Love hugs kisses and prayers,Maureen
6 of 16 | Posted by: Maureen - Buffalo, NY - Cousin
I can not hear the word "dearie" without thinking of Pamela. I know she called many people that, but it always made me feel special. ...Read More »
7 of 16 | Posted by: Donna Cowan - Friend
“Among our greatest blessings,
we count the times spent with the Life-Loving,
8 of 16 | Posted by: Doug Pellegrini - Needham, MA
“what a beautiful family you have created Pamela. I am grateful to have crossed paths with you in this life. may you rest in peace. Love to all the...Read More »
9 of 16 | Posted by: Laurie Switzer - Encinitas, CA
“Dear Chris, Trinity, Ashely and Chris,
Pam will live on in our hearts with memories of her laughter and energy. Our thougths and prayer are with...Read More »
10 of 16 | Posted by: Jean Arthur and Steve Allen - RI
“What a beautiful, beautiful light in our world has moved on. Dear dear Pooleys I send so much love and so many hugs to you. I imagine we are all...Read More »
11 of 16 | Posted by: Vicky Barstow - Ashland, MA
“I love you Mumma and I miss you.
12 of 16 | Posted by: Ashley Pooley - daughter
“My heart breaks to have read Pamela's obituary.
I was a friend of her sister Penny's, in jr. high and high school. Pam and I met and crossed paths...Read More »
13 of 16 | Posted by: Sarah (Sally) Smith - Princeville, HI
You old sweat hog I have so many wonderful memories of our times spent growing up in Wellesley. I will cherish these memories till we meet...Read More »
14 of 16 | Posted by: Charles Allen - Madison, NH
“May God bless your family, the love, the caring - all of this was an exceptional example of what a family should be - I am so proud to have watched...Read More »
15 of 16 | Posted by: Iris L. Hanney - Cape Coral, FL
“She was like the bright light of the candles you light in her memory. She is remembered as such a dear sweet heart, and a brave trooper. She was...Read More »
16 of 16 | Posted by: Carol Toran - Needham, MA
Pamela Durkin Pooley was born on May 28, 1956 in Boston, MA. Her parents, Dr. Harry A Durkin and Thelma (Pixie) Durkin lived in Norfolk, MA. Pamela's older brother, Harry A. Durkin III lives in Corpus Christi, TX and her sister, Penny Durkin Caskey lives in Houston, TX with her husband, Mark. Her older brother, Christopher died at the age of 39 while living in Key West, FL.
After a few years in Norfolk the Durkin family relocated to Wellesley, MA where they lived in a wonderful house at 123 Abbott Road. Pamela went through the Wellesley public school system and has many lifelong friends from growing up in Wellesley. In high school Pamela played field hockey and lacrosse. She was a good athlete and loved sports. Her teammates called her "Durk" and many are still friends. With her hair tied in braids Pamela used to run through the streets of Wellesley, to school, to practice, and then home at the end of the day.
While she was in high school I met Pamela on Thanksgiving Day in 1971. Pamela's older brother Harry and my brother, JP met at Utica College. JP invited me along to meet his college buddy and Pamela was in the kitchen at 123 Abbott Road. A spark went off and a love affair started.
After high school Pamela traveled up to North Conway, NH where she lived and worked in the ski country. One of the strongest qualities of Pamela was in making friends. Her friends became lifelong friends and somehow being away from them for years or living in a different place never diminished the strength of her love and the bonds of her friends. People who became her friends were there for life and she tried to reach out to them over the years working hard to stay in touch and keep the bond of friendship and love as fresh and when she first met everyone.
In North Conway Pamela worked at the Hearthstone restaurant where Ron & Loretta actually hired the wrong Pamela and offered her the job over the telephone. While they realized their mistake, the job offer was tendered and Pamela loved working with Ron and Loretta Alden making flambé dishes tableside at night and serving the great food that Ron cooked. She skied with everyone and loved being up in the valley. During the summer Pamela found her way down to Martha's Vineyard where she found a job at the Quarterdeck right on the waterfront in Edgartown, MA. Pamela lived in the A frame house on Pine Street, a short walk to Edgartown Center with Annie and Suzie (Q). She rode her bike and enjoyed great times on South Beach as well as in the night life in Edgartown during the summer season.
That was the summer that the movie, Jaws was filmed on the island. Pamela met many of the stars of the movie as well as the supporting cast and crews for filming and logistics. They all ate at the Quarterdeck, famous for great burgers and fried clams on a regular basis and Pamela learned each person's favorite dish so that she could start making it before they even ordered.
In 1976, the Durkin family pulled up their roots from Wellesley and moved to Corpus Christi, TX where Dr. Durkin practiced psychiatry at several of the local hospitals. Pamela and her sister Penny moved to Texas with the family where Pamela stood out as a "Yankee" who was not afraid to speak her mind. She attended classes at a local community college while working at a neat little restaurant called the Ancient Mariner.
Serving excellent food, meeting people, and making sure that everyone had a good time were traits that Pamela learned from her work in the restaurant business. This served her well in generating great tips but also helped to define her as a person who was always outgoing and willing to reach out to talk with anyone, anywhere, at any time. Throughout her life, Pamela served huge meals to family and friends. These meals were a trademark of her ability to run a kitchen, create a festive environment, and make everyone welcome anywhere.
Pamela went to Key West, FL with JP, Dennis Perry and several of our friends where she worked in a Perkins "Cakes & Steaks" pancake house. She loved life in the Keys enjoying sunsets at Mallory Square every night and days at Smather's Beach playing volleyball or working on her tan. She brought a gorgeous red dress with her to Key West that was her trademark outfit.
At first, Pamela camped out with a group on the island of Boca Chica Key until the Monroe County Sheriffs told the group to be out by 9:00am the following morning. I was in Key West at the time, and with no money in our pockets, Pamela's brother, Christopher and I set out to find a place for the group to live in Key West during the peak winter season. Somehow we found an old shrimp boat in the harbor. This boat, the Anton, was in the harbor for repairs and provided a base of operations for the group for several months at no charge!
Like North Conway, NH and Martha's Vineyard, Key West became a special place for Pamela and one where she would return to for the remainder of her life. These resort areas held so many special memories for Pamela that she relived with her family over the years during visits and vacations.
After Key West Pamela returned to Corpus Christi to live with her parents and took some courses while working at the Ancient Mariner. While spending a few days together in Corpus Christi on my way back to Martha's Vineyard after a winter skiing in Vail, Colorado our romance rekindled. Pamela accepted my invitation to come to the island and traveled up to live with me in a small house on Chappaquiddick Island near Edgartown. In exchange for some work on thecontinued...