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John James, founder of The Grief Recovery Institute

John W. James

Founder of The Grief Recovery Institute®
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

Russell Friedman, Executive Director of The Grief Recovery Institute

Russell Friedman

Executive Director
Co-Author of The Grief Recovery
Handbook & When Children Grieve

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How do you solve unresolved issues when the other person is dead? (Published 4/18/11)


My daughter died in Dec. 2008. She was mad at me for not bailing her out of trouble and had not spoken to me in 6 months despite repeated attempts to communicate with her. The last thing she said to me was that she hated me and never wanted to see me again. I never got a chance to say goodbye nor make things right. I can’t find joy in the holidays anymore. I’m having panic attacks that seem to come out of nowhere. I went through two courses of grief counseling. Why is it so much worse this year that last? I feel as if I am regressing instead of progressing. And how do you solve unresolved issues when the person is dead? I've tried and had no results. Do you have any suggestions for me? Sincerely, Theresa

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